@matigo She's allegedly tried to apply for several jobs and has not been successful. How hard she's actually tried is debatable.
Meanwhile, she is claiming expenses her provided financial records don't support and I see some interesting charges and deposits from when we were married.
"Be comforted that in the face of all aridity and disillusionment and despite the changing fortunes of time,
there is always a big future in computer maintenance." -- National Lampoon's Deteriorata [youtube.com]
@matigo what you fail to understand is: she’s a narcissist. She’s using everything at her disposal to ensure I remain in her life under her control for as long as possible. Especially right now since she doesn’t have a source of income otherwise…
My not soon enough ex is trying to asset that phoneboy.com is a community asset, even though I established it in 1996…before we were married.
@variablepulserate true, and the message it sends to my not soon enough ex is worth it.
@variablepulserate The original order had me making payments on "joint credit cards." I agreed because I knew our credit cards weren't actually joint, SHE was the primary cardholder and had cancelled me from them before I even filed the divorce paperwork. The court just affirmed that.
@matigo the next date on the calendar is mediation, which is about six weeks out. The actual trial for the divorce, should we not come to an agreement, is scheduled for early December.
That said, this will likely come to a head when there’s not enough money to cover my expenses and pay her. At that point, all bets are off.
Instead of stressing out about the hearing in my divorce today by attending it, I let the universe handle it for me.
It wasn’t the result I hoped for—a mere $500/mo reduction in my spousal support amount—but it is better than nothing. And she’s responsible for that so-called joint credit card until we settle the divorce. I consider that a win.