PhoneBoy Says

@matigo meanwhile, my not soon enough ex requested my address as part of the discovery process. I gave them a mailing address, but not my physical address. Even though there is no reason she needs to know, we’ll see if she decides to press the issue in court.

The mail that comes to the marital house in my name is either junk or stuff that’s relevant to the (marital) property. I didn’t even bother to set up forwarding as it’s easier to tell the few people that would send me mail what my new address is.

Having to route mail through the lawyer…ouch.

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@matigo it’s most likely fear

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How many of these things [m.youtube.com] has my not soon enough ex done to me? All five.

@matigo thanks to Covid-19, I went from traveling 50%+ of the time to being stuck home for two years. I don’t know how any marriage can survive that unless it’s rock solid…

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@matigo the offer I made is more than fair and equitable. She probably won’t see it that way, but I’m hoping the court will if it comes down to it.

// @sumudu

@matigo that sounds like my marriage 😬

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@matigo My main issue at this point is financial. The courts are all too happy to give her “status quo” without any regard to mine. As my lawyer told me, “Fair and equitable does not mean equal.”

// @sumudu

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@sumudu ln Washington State, there is a 90 day cooling off period before any divorce can be finalized. That assumes the parties are amicable, which is not the case here.

Also, when this started, our daughter was still a minor. She’s 18 and graduated from high school now. Finalizing before that would have likely been messy.

At this point, there’s a scheduled trial date, which has other checkpoints along the way. A hearing is scheduled for July to revisit the temporary orders from February, assuming she doesn’t accept the offer I made as part of a discovery request.

Yeah, it‘s ongoing and messy.

// @matigo

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@matigo I dunno how long a typical divorce takes in Japan. Mine, where the separation started in early January, may not go to trial until the beginning of December…assuming we don’t settle beforehand.

// @sumudu

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@matigo The only advice I can give here is: when the right person comes along, you’ll both know it.

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